Kudos to all the givers!:)

Do you halt for a second to reevaluate your response in the fear of hurting someone's sentiments? Are you the one who decides not to babble further just by sensing a deep tone of irritation in someone's voice? Do you often choose to step back from an argument as you quickly discover the fact that the other person is not understanding your point of view? Are you the one who is more expressive in a fight and not the one who acts as the source of all the blames?

If you nodded your head happily while reading all the questions, well then, you are a giver. Someone who pedals along with a great deal of empathy and who is calm and gentle. We nurture a great amount of tolerance within ourselves in comparison to the takers and therefore in times of chaos, we are the ones whom people always look up to. It is less likely and very rare that we end up giving up on the ones we love.

Though the givers have been bestowed with a personality makeup that helps them to endure more pain than the takers, in our societies, the takers are considered to be more strong. Those with the loudest voice and ruthless comments gain the largest applause while the ones with a serene outlook receive disapproved looks and inappropriate taunts. All these instances often distances the givers from a strong self esteem and confidence.

As running behind what the society considers as 'ideal' has been our staunchest motto, the givers often struggle to become like the takers. From being passive to aggressive, the whole notion of transforming themselves creates a painful crack that isolates them from their truest selves, making them more vulnerable to self destruction. The path chosen voluntarily by them gets flooded by the waves of unjust comparison that generally urges them to suffer within the four walls of self hate.

How often have you found yourself in such a similar state of helplessness? Do you feel it is fair enough to punish yourself in such an heinous way? Blending in effortlessly with people is our greatest strength and weakness. Because though this quality makes us very understanding, it often misleads us by making us feel that we harbour feelings for the other person, and very rarely makes us question whether the one on the receiving end truly loves us or not.

Therefore it's my humble request to all the givers to love yourselves unconditionally. Spit out all the worries of whether you will be caressed with love or not in the future. Because what goes around, eventually comes back around!