What happens when you do things you don't desire to do...

'You can do it!'

This sentence spreads out an amazing dimension of positivism. Anyone loves to hear this when they find themselves in the most challenging situations. I can presume that the challenging situation comprises of something which you wish to excel. 

There can be situations totally opposite to these. A challenge is in front of you and you keep on playing the same track in your mind, 'you can do it! you can do it!' but here the challenge is something which you don't desire to excel, you are standing there just because you want to procure acceptance. 

What may be the outcome of this?

You fail.

I have realized one thing in the past few days that when we try too hard to achieve something, we generally fail in it. Here working 'too hard' doesn't imply carrying a positive attitude and making maximum efforts to succeed. It is when you are under lot of pressure or more specifically, someone is pressurizing you to do something in which you attain no interest. Then why are you doing that particular thing at the first place? That's because you can make the person happy or make him/her like you more than he/she does. This is what generally squirms in our minds right?

Now what is that thing which we do to make the other person happy? It could be anything. But going more in depth, it is some sort of object or activity which the other person admires. I don't feel that doing something for someone else which he/she likes is a bad thing, especially when it comes out of love. There are times when we place our priorities below the priorities of our loved ones. That is truly special. But there are also times when we get so much immersed in making the person happy or trying to impress him/her that we forget who we truly are and where our capabilities actually lie. 

Those are the moments where we work 'too hard' but don't receive fruitful results. Our minds during that period are not as light as the feather which flows delicately and graciously amidst the power of the wind. It becomes heavy and stuffed with only expectations. You try but the desire has already vanished within the moments of sadness and disappointment. 

'Be yourself' is such a commonly used term but it appears to be commonly distinct. We hear this, say this but how many of us actually follow this? Even I forget to follow this during times  when reality is overshadowed by day dreaming and excitement. But the sooner you realize where you stand, the easier it would be for you and all of us to come in talking terms with reality. 

People feel that they were stupid when they realized how their efforts to 'prove' themselves had gone in vain.  All human beings gain that tendency to prove themselves so that others would look at them in awe and praise and admire them. There is nothing wrong in it. Everyone deserves attention and feeling of importance. But when an individual gets so blinded in gaining importance that he starts doing things which actually doesn't suit him, then he may land in trouble. 

My father had always told me one thing: 'It is not necessary that everyone out there is going to like you.' I feel that this statement has been useful for me and it may even to you to forget the past and move on in life. 

What is your greatest challenge?

Human potential is beyond words. It multiplies magnificently between your first and your last breath. It is nothing but the driving force behind one’s existence. The purpose of your life is like a blossoming flower and your potential is the stalk which supports it. Only sky is the limit if both rejoice each other’s company.

If potential and purpose of life are imagined as one side of the coin, then challenges occupy the other side. These challenges raise us, break us and polish our personalities to create a spark, the one which we are carrying today. They sometimes take us for a drive to drop us beside our goals whereas sometimes they carry the masks of unfriendly strangers. They never die, determined to indulge in new shapes at every walk of our lives.

Challenges are analyzed as exterior objects. A hot-tempered boss, hectic entrance test, recession, giving a presentation in front of large audience, break-up and so on are its varied forms. Some people manage to pass through such foggy areas but many halt out of fear and dejection. Why can’t they pass through the foggy areas?

Ans: They are not yet aware of their main challenge.

Criticizing is an important threat that every human being possesses. If any stimulus crosses their path which they don’t consider as desirable, they start criticizing it. So even challenges are criticized by us some time or the other. I have read in Dale Carnegie’s books that criticism is like a poison that kills any relationship. (That’s not exactly his words butthe underlying meaning is the same). So if you got to materialize a beautiful relation with yourself then is criticizing going to help you at all? You know the answer.

The people who are able to pass through the foggy areas are the ones who consider themselves as their first main challenges. Their relationship with themselves is beautiful with an inner depth of understanding. Criticism blocks you from looking into your inner self. That is how one comes over with brilliant ideas and solutions for their upcoming hurdles.

YOU are your greatest challenge and no one can change this fact. If your mind can make you dream about your goals, then why can’t it give you solutions for the obstacles?

Imagine your mind is a bird. The bird is with other birds in the nest, waiting for the food toarrive and fighting with the other ones. Then one day, it flies and sits on a higher branch. From there it can see the entire scenario more vividly that takes place every day in the nest. Similarly if we are too much engrossed in our fights and criticism, then how can we get a crystal clear picture of the challenge in front of us?

Take a moment and fly higher from where you are. That one flight may take you to the glories of the sky.

 

It doesn't matter how you look....

Height is a trait which is a known fact to all.  It is completely depended on one's genes and it is composed by nature, one has only a little control over it. 

'You are tall' or 'you are short' are the statements which could pinch your emotions. If you are tall and are complimented by peeps around, it will surely pinch your emotion of pride. You feel so good about yourself. But if it is the other way around, especially when your 'lack of height' is compared with a person with whom you got to raise your head up for a talk, then you know well what you are going through.

Nowadays people have given birth to a new perception towards a particular characteristic called height. It has been given a lot of importance and if you are 5 feet 5 inches or more than that, you are considered as 'perfect.' If you aren't, then they would either look at you with pity or mock you. 

Physical appearances I feel has achieved the peak position of a pyramid that contains things inducing human satisfaction. Everyone wants to be more fairer, thinner(0 size!) or are even ready to indulge into a surgery for producing a 'dimple' on the cheek. 

Seriously?! 

In case of boys, some of them have the craze to develop abs, muscles and make their hair covered with gel to create artistic spikes and all this is done to appear 'cool.' 

I clearly agree to the fact that looking neat and presentable is important. But before you indulge into any appearance changing missions, just ask yourself: why am I doing this? Is it because you love it or you want someone else to love it? The answer will immediately knock on the door of your consciousness. 

The topic regarding the 'body size' is yet another interesting one. Being fit and healthy is very essential. Some are very thin because their body metabolism is very high and some become thin due to vigorous exercise. I personally feel that the tendency of letting your body indulge into exercise must be a call from the heart. If one is doing exercise just due to the external pressure, there is no fun in doing it. 

Your colour, weight, body structure and height could be manipulated or changed to a certain extent. Being able to measure that extent would make you realise how much you can work on it. That hard-work will eventually provide you with sweet results and you will find yourself being happy about it. It would lead to less stress and dissatisfaction.  

Be happy with how you are and how you look. Never feel insecure about your looks, because that is how you are meant to look. There are many products and cosmetics for the face, gym and other surgical treatments to make you thin ( I don't know the names of such treatments but I have heard that it exists) and heels to make you look taller. It is impossible to ignore such things in today's era because it has gained so much of popularity. But amidst all this, haven't you ever felt that the 'true you' is lost somewhere? The one that was beautifully crafted by the hands of nature?

The connection with universe

'I hate my LIFE!' is such a negative statement which very often I have heard people saying. Of course the utterance seems very exaggerating and when someone is not happy with the way things are happening around, such words have an easy spill from the mouth. The individual blames people, objects and circumstances which are rotating around his/her life, cursing them and the situations grow even worse. After which the person says: "Why me? Why is God doing this only to me?!" 

Alas, there is no option but to see that individual jumping in the well of misery by locking himself/herself in the room, trying to shun off all the contacts and losing interest even in the activities which he/she used to admire the most. 

Who should actually be blamed for this travesty? Life? Most people blame their lives when they are confronted with difficult circumstances. But who is controlling this life full of problems? 

We.

Thoughts which keep on circulating in our minds are energies. This implies that both positive and negative thoughts are nothing but energies. This energy becomes very powerful when we keep on dwelling on it. That is the time when it shoots up into the universe and whatever you thought will eventually turn into an experience in the external world.

Which means that if you feel you are facing a lot of problems, it is actually because you were brooding over something bad that has happened to you in your past, which makes you feel anxious and irritable, increasing the frequency of negative waves in your mind and making them release into the universe, which alas gives birth to more negative situations.(problems)

'What you sow so shall you reap' is a proverb that fits perfectly with this concept. If you sow banana seeds and water them regularly, nature responds to this action by making you feast your eyes on a large and beautiful banana tree. It would only be a banana tree and not an apple tree. Similarly if you practise the habit of bottling the positive thoughts, then those would eventually turn into likewise situations, making you more happy and successful in your life. 

We all have the habit of washing our faces after an outdoor experience. In the same way we should not forgot to cleanse our minds. It is the source which is going to shape our lives. Our mind can be implicitly compared to a bowl of water. It's purity can only be sustained if it is taken care by us everyday. Or else small specks of dirt will built it's home in it, slowly and gradually calling it's neighbours and at the end that clean bowl of water would turn into a stale and filthy water. The place where taking even a single breath seems next to impossible. A kind of scenario wherein death overshadows life.

It doesn't matter who you are and what is your age. We all are same at the core and this 'universal law' applies to all. Consider your mind as a companion and love it till the end. Create your mind as a book whose each page is inked with positive ideas which will help you, me and all the people across the globe to aim for our dreams, make us compassionate and deeply loved by our dear ones. 

Don't give a damn to those who try to put you down. If you are an optimist, you will definitely recreate the courage that will enlighten your destiny and make you into an individual you want to emerge as. Dream, fly and colour your life with all the positive ideas and hopes. And if your life is not feeling well, provide it with the medicines of optimism. Slowly and gradually that bowl of water which is nothing but your mind  will take in the shape of a divine energy. 

It's a state of mind!

A question was bubbling fiercely in my head during this morning. It just joined in the network of my thoughts, as I was jotting down my notes. The thought sprang up into life as I was enjoying my studies and then a voice said in my head: why do some people don't enjoy studies? The answer to that question formed a chain with a completely different network of thoughts which focuses on hanging out with friends, a cinema lover or partying hard. A person who doesn't enjoy studies must be giving an enthusiastic response to some other stimulus, that may be different from the ones mentioned above. So any xyz stimulus can cause an individual to dance in enjoyment but if it doesn't happen, then what would that situation be called as? Boredom? The two concepts which are 'boredom' and 'enjoyment' led to the birth of a question (yes, the same question I had typed down in the first line) which rose above all the networks of thoughts in my mind.

Is there a link between boredom and enjoyment? 

I agree that the introductory paragraph is very confusing but I can't help it! This is what happens when we try to phrase the birth of an idea which joins with another idea which joins with some other that just appeared out of nowhere into words! 

Phew! So now I would like to create an explanation that would give justice to my question. I am a bit certain that there is some link between the two and I will try to explain it in a less confusing way (wink*)

What is enjoyment? Hmmm. Not so easy to describe it. That is because this particular feeling varies from individual to individual. 

For some enjoyment is:

For some enjoyment is:

For some enjoyment is:

How diverse, isn't it? One more thing I would like to add is any thing that an individual enjoys or an action which he enjoys to do could be hereditary or inculcated due to an external influence. 

Now I would like to take this matter one step further. It is an universal fact that one human being cannot enjoy all the situations which takes shape in the passage of time. A boy is enjoying himself on the ground as he plays football wholeheartedly with his friends, laughing, falling, running and jumping until his mom orders him to stop playing and takes him to the mall. 

Oh God.

So one can expect that he would be carrying that face during the entire mall adventure, his face growing worse with the increase in excitement his mom's face radiates as she experiments the shops one by one. 

What is that the poor little fellow going through? 

Boredom.

Why is he getting bored? The answer is so simple. It is because shopping doesn't please him the way football does. So the things which actually doesn't make you feel happy will eventually make you feel miserable and bored. It's very humane. Everyone experiences this kind of circumstance sometime or the other. But certain situations are unavoidable. If such a situation is not  'enjoyable' in your opinion, then what would you do? Carry that swollen face all the time? Of course not.

As I am typing down this article of mine, I got the answer to the question I had mentioned above. The link between enjoyment and boredom is your own mind. The way you perceive things is actually depended on the scene you have already drawn on your mind. If something is boring for you, that is because you have already visualised it as a thing you would detest. But if you try to shake that illusion and put it up as:'Not a big deal. I can give it a try!' will make you enjoy it and will safeguard you from falling into the trap of boredom.

Attitude changes everything. So never give up on tuning your mind into a direction that you must have never witnessed. But just make sure of one thing that light should be able to travel smoothly across that direction! 

This would make you feel like: