The battle of choices

Remember those frustrated moments of your life when anger swells up in your chest, after hearing someone criticising your most favourite celebrity? This anger is actually the 'twin' of the one caused when someone criticises your work or tries to demotivate you. Our likes and dislikes possess an indestructible kowtow towards its master which is our 'ego'.  Therefore the ones who have similar tastes like ours are those whom we adore and we definitely pass on a dirty look to those who challenge our tastes. Even when the celebrity you admire is not related to you in any way! 

It takes a great amount of patience to accept other people's choices especially when your choices and theirs are poles apart. Choices bind people and they could create bridges as well. There are times when we tend to mould our choices just to 'fit in' and to gain desirable approval from our friends. Isn't it funny that we constantly want others to approve and adhere to our choices? If disapproval confronts you, you either respond to the person by saying, "there is no use explaining it to you" or you look critically at yourself, through the eyes of the person lending out disapproval.

In such situations when one looks critically at oneself, it implies that the other person successfully struck a bow to make his partner feel that something is wrong with him. But when the partner is smart enough to utter statements like "there is no use explaining it to you", the other one feels offended as it hurt his/ her ''ego".  Gosh! Is this what we are doing to ourselves and to others? 

What I strongly feel is that my choices don't define me. They are nothing but the thoughts created by the hands of experience which inevitably changes. So why take them so seriously? Why try to prove yourself so much in front of a person having a contradictory view, even when your choice could be the result of someone else's influence? So if that is the case, then is your choice really " yours"? Or is it just passed on to you just as culture is transmitted from generation to generation? 

Our likes and choices need not always be in tune with those of others. Rather it is beautiful to be unique and it is not that bad to be the black sheep of the family ;). But let's not be so engrossed with our own that we fail to understand those of others. After all, we are infinite beings. It's just the rigidity of thoughts that tries to nullify this magnificent quality.