Friendships have always been described in a romantic manner. According to me, "romantic words" are those which lifts you up from the real world and lands you in your dreamland. I now realised that all these years, I have been living unknowingly in my own dreamland. I was proud enough to feel that my dreamland contained all those thoughts which were born out of 'in depth thinking. This self made error later pushed me to question all my perceptions.
When I was in my 10th grade, I envied my friends who gained enough luck to be a part of large cool groups. I had noticed them hanging out together at cinemas or enjoying a precious birthday bash. Their beautified and defect less selfies used to be all over my news feed and I always felt that they are cherishing the time of their lives.
When I transformed into a junior college student, I finally got the opportunity to hang out with my friends. I mingled with all and never had a "permanent" group. But the feeling was something different and I guess I was happy. That's the way I felt friendships are meant to be. Cracking jokes, hanging out, clicking selfies, having a discussion over your favourite music and authors and hugging each other with excitement at the time of meetings.
When I used to receive 'friends forever' message from my friends, my heart used to blossom with gratitude. It was as if I had a tour of my unpredictable future. But this was my past. My present has befriended a new neighbour who has shown me a new path, a path that holds a unique description about friendships.
This path made my acquaintance with an old yet powerful concept, the one which always took a backseat during my experiences with friends.
Honesty.
To be very honest, my friendships have never been completely transparent. Lies were always hanging above and yet neither me nor my friends fully acknowledged it's presence. We design images where ' I will always be with you' would be shining in the middle of the image, with smiling faces looking at you from the background. But just as a tree cannot grow without it's roots, how can togetherness grow without honesty?
Our minds function more or less in a similar direction. I hide something from you and if you lack the emotional strength, you will do the same with me, keeping in mind the idea of 'tit for tat'. This is how the world revolves. But this can't be absolutely true because there are certain exceptions.
When my new neighbour befriended me and helped me to overcome the blame that I received through lack of honesty, I had asked myself a question and the same I would like to present below:
Can long hours of hangout be called worthy if there is an absence of an honest connection?
In my opinion, there is no worthiness behind it.
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